I have a theory that events throughout your life determine who you are - they shape you.
In order to understand & appreciate who you ARE, you need to see where you WERE.
Here are what I think are the pivotal moments/developmental stages of my life:
2 years old - I would always stack phonebooks if I wanted to reach something on a ledge.
Birth of my resourcefulness?3 years old - My parents brought me to my first midnight mass at Christmas. People around me kept talking throughout the mass so I stood up and said(in Tagalog/Filipino): "Who's the dumbass that won't keep quiet?" It was a pre-dominantly Filipino area/church and my parents were SO embarassed. I guess this was the
birth of my bluntness.
Junior Kindergarten - I tried to convince everyone in my class that the human heart wasn't shaped like this: <3.>The
birth of my argumentative nature?
Senior Kindergarten - I made a girl cry. We had to make a display of what we wanted to be when we grew up. Mine was a computer designer. I laughed at her & told her that she was never going to be a princess.
Birth of my rationality?
- I also remember throwing dirt in my cousin's eye for no reason whatsoever. I felt really bad about it for years.
Grade 1 - I was put in a split class where I could read better than any one older than me (even the older "reading buddies") I think this is where
my passion for reading started.
Grade 2 - I moved. I had to make new friends all over again. Everyone in my grade each wrote me a letter after I moved (I still have them). I
realized that it made more sense to embrace change instead of trying to resist it.
Grade 3 - I realized that I wasn't a lucky guy. One of the prizes for the school fund-raiser were hot wheel cars. We had to pick popsicle sticks to decide who got dibs on cars. For two years, out of 15 boys...I somehow managed to end up picking last. I also raised the most money both years. At this point, I decided not to let luck be the reward for how hard I work. I also decided not to rely on luck, even if it makes everything easier.
Birth of my diligence?
Grade 4 - I went to Philippines and I saw poverty first-hand.
- This was also the birth of my motorcycle dream
- I passed the first gifted test, but failed the interview by 1 point. It was at this point that I
realized that I was only a little bit above average in terms of intelligence. I didn't like that, so I decided to work on it.
- A teacher tested us weekly in random facts about the world. I always got perfect -
the beginning of my interest in knowledgeGrade 5 - I joined the w5h team, which I found so rewarding - the
affirmation of my interest in knowledge.Grade 6 - I had my first depression: I realized how fucked up the world really was. It bothered the shit out of me that I couldn't do anything because I was only 11 years old. Oddly enough, hip-hop was my therapy & it's why I got into it.
- This was also the year where I realized that my parents were older than average and it saddened me to come to terms with how they're most likely going to die earlier than most die. I realized that kids my age took their parents for granted, which is why I try not to.
Grade 7 - I learned my first relationship lesson.
- My grandpa died. I
learned not to take anything for granted.
- I lost faith in god & found it again
Grade 8 - I had my second depression: realized that I depended on other people too much.
I became more independentGrade 9 - I decided to give up any extracurricular activities to work
- My cousin taught me to aim higher when in came to girls.
- I
Lost faith in god AND religion (most likely for good).
Grade 10 - I realized that I cared too much about what people think - this is
the introduction of my indifference.- A summer fling taught me that
"time is the most valuable thing you can give someone."Grade 11 - A friend convinced me that I shouldn't be so much of an introvert. He taught me a lot about confidence, too.
- I saw a video that changed my life. It was titled: "are you happy with who you are?" This was
the final step in me becoming self-sufficient.Grade 12 - I realized that blood isn't thicker than water - at the end of the day, loyalty isn't determined by who you're related to...but by who does what.
- Also most likely
the beginning of the greatest years in my life. I've had the best batch of friends that I've ever had since then.
Socrates once said that "the unexamined life is not worth living", and I couldn't agree more.
Where you're at is only significant because of where you came from. I can only appreciate moving from a not-so-decent apartment to a nice house because I can remember what it was like not to.
If you can look back at pivotal moments in your life, and be happy with how you turned out...then good for you. If you don't like how you turned out, then there's always room for change.
(As cliche as it sounds,) I try to learn from everything I do wrong. We shouldn't have to learn lessons the hard way...but somehow, we always do. I can choose to try to prevent things from happening, or sit back and hope that it doesn't.
It takes a lot to become satisfied with who you are (I wouldn't even say that I'm even close, yet). It's always a work in progress. My life's always been foremost about self-improvement - If I'm at the same point in my life that I was last year, then I haven't spent that year well. For me, it's always about growth.
I'm not saying it's the right way to live (I really wouldn't know)...but it has worked for me.
Post your life-changing events. If it's personal, leave an alias and let me know who you are via e-mail/text/whatever.I look forward to seeing your lists. Don't worry if you can't remember some years, post what you CAN remember - even if it's just a year or two.
Peace,
+ knowledge